Tuesday, 1 November 2016

The eight emotional stages of being in your first serious relationship

Recently it seems as though I have found myself in the rather odd situation of being in a 'serious' relationship. My very first serious relationship. Now don't get me wrong, I've had relationships before, though granted they never lasted much longer than a few months, I've dated many men, had flings, had friendships, had friends with benefits, heck I've even been in a Dom|Sub/Master|Slave relationship. But this is my first ever, real. serious. relationship. I've just never been the type of girl who saw themselves in a relationship, I always told myself I would never settle - I would only ever enter into a relationship if I could see a future with the guy I was seeing, and up until now.. I hadn't

Sunday, 30 October 2016

Male Birth Control research halted - but is it even a good idea?

If you haven't heard this shocking news by now then you are late on the poll to be sure, it has been circling the world of social networking in forms of memes and posts for the last week. If you are one of the few that hasn't heard about this appealing information by now, then hold your breathe because it is ridiculous. Okay, here goes - there is a male birth control injection that actually works - but has had it's experimental study cut short due to male participants dropping out. Why did they drop out? Quite simply - they couldn't handle the side effects. What are the side effects, you ask.. well among these recorded side effects that caused the study's termination, it was recorder that; depression, mood-swings, acne and nausea were the main culprits. Sound familiar...?

Tuesday, 18 October 2016

Shortlisted in the Cosmopolitan Influencer Awards!!!

Hello you lovely lot,

Just a quick post to say an absolutely MASSIVE thank you to everyone who nominated me for Best Sex and Relationships Influencer in the 2016 Cosmopolitan Influencer Awards! The results have come in and I have indeed been Shortlisted, which means the absolute world to me!!

At last year's Cosmopolitan Blog Awards!!

Writing this blog has helped me to influence and actively promote curiosity and open conversation when it comes to sexuality, improve people's confidence when it comes to sex, dating and our bodies, and answered many a question about the weird and wonderful way us humans work. Most of all, writing this blog has enabled me to become more in touch with myself as a sexual being, and share my experiences in order to help others, and that feeling is irreplaceable.

Once again, I can not thank you absolutely fabulous bunch! Here's to the future of Not Just Sex!

With love in sincerity,
Belle x

Sunday, 16 October 2016


Hello you fabulous bunch,

It is that time of year again! What time of year? I here you call. Nomination time! The nominations for the UK Blog Awards are officially open and it would mean the absolute WORLD for me to be nominated!!

If my blog has ever inspired you, fuelled your curiosity, clarified your confusion or improved your sexual confidence- and you could spare a few minutes of your time, then please please give me Not Just Sex cheeky nomination for Best Dating Blog

You can nominate Not Just Sex by following the link: here

The information you need to put in for my blog is:

Blog URL: http://www.notjustsex.co.uk
Blogger Name: Belle Bloggs
Blogger Email: notjustsex@outlook.com

Thank you so so much!!!!

Belle x

Friday, 7 October 2016

NSFW colouring books are now a thing.. and they could be the answer to all your problems

They say that colouring isn't just for kids. Studies actually reveal that adult colouring can become an amazing outlet for exercising our creativity and relieving ourselves of everyday stresses. Renowned Psychologist Antoni Martínez concluded that in colours,  adults can “enter into a more creative, freer state”. Know what else is an awesome stress reliever? Sex. Yep, you heard right. Sex really is the remedy for just about anything. Bad day at work? Sex. Uni building up an absolute mass of coursework and you just can not? Sex. Have to spend an entire two week skiing holiday with the in-laws when you're but a wee snow bunny? SEX...


Friday, 23 September 2016

Cosmopolitan Influencer Awards 2016 | Nominate Not Just Sex!

Hello my fabulous readers! As you may be aware, the Cosmopolitan Influencer Awards are in their nomination stage.. Earlier this year I was shortlisted for a Cosmopolitan Blog Award and I would absolutely LOVE to try my hand at being in the running for this award too!!

At the 2016 Blog Awards
The award I would love to be on the shortlist for is the Best Sex & Relationship Influencer 2016. If you have ever found comfort or condolence in my blog, if one of my posts have ever resinated with you, if my advise has ever helped you in any way or if I have ever made you chuckle.. then it would mean the absolute WORLD to me to be nominated for this prestigious award! 

If you would like to nominate me then please do not hesitate to visit this link: http://www.cosmopolitan.co.uk/entertainment/news/a45587/cosmopolitan-influencer-awards-2016/

Thank you so so much!!

Love and Kisses,
Belle x

Thursday, 21 July 2016

Date idea: Experimental Cocktail Club

In front of an old dusky unmarked door in China Town Soho, stands an unintimidating plainly, yet slightly smartly dressed man smoking a cigarette. To any unknowing tourist or local passer by, this door is nothing but just that, a door. And the man, just another man lulling about on the grey streets of Central London - but hidden behind this dark, paint strewn wooden door, is one of London's best kept secrets.

Sunday, 17 July 2016

What not to do on a first date

C'mon, we all know it. When it comes to dating, first impressions really do count! Well.. I guess in this day and age I should say second impressions. The first impression is usually put to bed rather quickly with a simple left or right swipe - but second impressions, the first irl date.. now they really, really do count.  

I would like to think by now that I am an experienced dater, well that is to say that I have been on a lot of dates! First dates, as Carrie Bradshaw would say - are just job interviews with cocktails. They can be scary, intimidating, confusing. They can go well if you play your cards right, but if you throw in a bad trick, oh boy can they be ugly. In a rather belated follow up The SEXplanation post with my good friend the mansplanation - I will be letting you in on a few first date no-nos from a gal's perspective! Fancy reading his post on the same topic from a guy's POV? Check it out here! Now, on with the post...

Monday, 4 July 2016


Earlier this year I dated a guy called Joe*. Joe also just so happened to be a bit of an internet personality himself. Although focusing his content mainly around food and fitness, he also commented from time to time on relationships. Here's what he had to say in one of his latest videos: DO NOT CHASE WOMEN. The moment you chase a woman is the moment you give up power, masculinity, the moment you become low value in her eyes.. so how does this theory play up in the real world? 


Tuesday, 9 February 2016

Dating with Anxiety

"You're very quiet, aren't you" he said it with spite, as though he intended it to hurt. He knew I wasn't quiet, he knew me before. He didn't think to ask why it was different now.
"You're like a barn mouse, do you ever say anything?" He knew I did. He'd heard me before.

Wednesday, 20 January 2016

Nine and a half reasons why being single is better than being in a relationship

"So what about you Belle, do you have a boyfriend?"
The cooing calls from the girls I just met meet my ears as I feel unpleasantly awkward. I know exactly why they're asking. They've spent the last two hours talking about their boyfriends, as I've politely nodded my head or rolled my eyes and tutted 'men, ey' as appropriate. It would be rude to not include me in reevaluating ever minor discussion aimed at their relationship again, but now with my own.

Monday, 4 January 2016

Vote for Not Just Sex in the UK Blog Awards

Exciting news once again for the blog.. Not Just Sex has been nominated for best Dating blog best Story Teller in the UK Blog Awards!! If you want to show your support, click read more to find out why and HOW you can vote...
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